Stress and anxiety are on the increase and show no sign of abating. Thanks to the pressures of modern life, many more people suffer than you might realise and these conditions can take over many different aspects of everyday life. One such aspect is libido and sex drive, and anxiety can not only lower sexual desire but sometimes put a stop to it altogether. So how can you identify the signs of low libido caused by anxiety and what steps can you take to find a solution?

The Power of Negative Thinking

Anxiety is a negative emotion and sexual desire is a positive one – it’s as simple as that. Anxiety causes sadness and distress and it’s a lot harder to get in the mood and the right mind set for sex when these negative emotions take over and take control.

Tiredness and Fatigue

This is one of the main side effects of suffering from anxiety and with stressful episodes sometimes resulting in extreme exhaustion, it follows that the last thing you’ll be in the mood for is sexual activity.


Anxiety means you can get distracted by and dwell on a number of different problems and issues. This means it can be difficult to give sex the positive focus it often needs. With your mind elsewhere is can prove much harder to get in the moment and reach orgasm.

A Vicious Circle

Sometimes greater anxiety can be caused by a low libido, when you are fully aware of the loss of this positive in your life. So the big question is, how can you break this cycle?


There is no one easy fix that can increase your libido if anxiety is a key factor. As with other mental health issues such as depression, the important thing is to tackle this first and with that will come more positive ripple effects that will help other areas of your life. This is a long and complex process that will very much depend on your own specific situation and condition, but when it comes to increasing your libido over a period of time, there are some techniques you can try…

  • Talk to your partner. You might find the old saying of ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’ to be true in this case and trying to hide or ignore the problem could end up making it worse.
  • Adopt a healthier lifestyle. More physical activity will not only keep you healthy but can also improve body confidence and release endorphins that can help you achieve a more positive mind set.


  • Make room for more romance and experimentation. Your own ideas about what constitutes good sex can change and achieving sexual arousal might mean trying new techniques or incorporating sex toys. Even if you don’t want to give sex a try right now, make time for foreplay, romance of even just cuddling – these positive steps in the right direction could help you gradually increase your libido over time.